Then i met H
Mardhiah.ain
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Im not sure how to share my story. Im not sure how to describe with words.
Being with H is not something i planned at thee first place. I always said, i dont prefer classmates but here I am with H. Im not saying its a bad things because we could literally share our assignments and study together and such, i just had bad experience once. Almost twice but nothing really official so i just consider that as almost. Eventho it was not planned, it was magically and still is.
No we don't live like fairy tale and everything seems rainbow and sunshine. No. It have had a few arguments and each were worst than before yet, we managed it. I guess that is just how relationship should work. I had been in relationship before but none of it was as serious as with H. None of it last this long too. Im not sure it is me or that other party. I did try to save it but it didn't work.
Being with H, opens my perception about older (a bit lah) guys and guys as a whole. Let's just ignore the phase men are trash for awhile. First, not ALL men are trash because women could be the trash too. Eventho im a feminist but i dont play by the rules of discriminating men. The simplest idea is, both men and women are equal in different ways. Tipulah kalau laki tak pernah nak clingy, manja manja, sensitive and such. You cant just side on women je about these things because above all the "being period and pms" shits, guys too have hormone.
If you know H as a person, you know how serious he is with his other commitments in any society which sometimes got my nerves. I mean, I am very supportive but i do need my man time to time. I do blame myself for holding him back sometimes but thats just my job. If he can't figure out how to balance his work now, he will never will in the future. If you let him too loose, he will never realize how far he had gone. He needed the break himself too. I am fine with any other commitments but he has to set boundaries. That boundaries would determine did he overwork.
I pity him whenever he was told to do extra works. Like i said, ill try my best to be supportive but at the same time i told him, you have ALL THE RIGHTS to say NO!
H in general is very kind and hard working. He would try to understand everyone and adapt with everyone's ways of communication. He is very supportive too. He don't complaint when i talk about make ups, skin cares, all those girl stuffs. He learn about it too. LOL Of course in the other hand, i would listen to his complaining and boy stuffs too. (Rahsia syaahomies takde dalam our conversation most of the times)
Give and take. We support each others interest lah in general.
We do consult each other with some stuff and always, i mean it, ALWAYS update each others well being and location. He would said, oh he needed to do this and that, so at least i dont have to wait for him. Ill update to him too most of the time. We get use to each other's pattern eventually.
Lastly i would say about spending. I know most couples who are still a student would consider this part of something. Sometimes when H asked me out, i set a limit because i don't want to spend too much. Example, i dont mind makan dekat mana tapi bajet mesti sekian, kalau nak lebih, you pay the baki. Does it sound rude? Nope. It is the truth. You can't expect your partner to pay for everything okay. It is not nice. Eventho he pays for everything, please please consider to contribute in other things. Pay half of the mean of at least give him something. Girls, insist to contribute. Laki kau bukan cop duit. Eventho he offers to pay for everything please remember, kau awek dia bukan isteri dia lagi. Dia tak belanja pun mak bapak dia lebih lebih macam kau jadi baik kau consider. Ok fine he push your offer but at least offer. Then, haa THEN you belanja lah dia something in return. Eventho bende tu murah. Example, he paid for the whole meal, you treat him some snacks ke bubbletea ke. Don't go out on a date without bringing any money. Please lah ladies.
It does not only show your good personalities but it also shows how considerate you are. Learn to be considerate in early state so that you will get used to it. Remember, eventho Allah mulia kan perempuan ni sampai syurga anak anak dibawah telapak kaki ibu and such, syurga seorang isteri tetap dengan suami. Kalau dari awal dah berkira macam macam, imagine later macam mana.
Im not saying you cant demand, you could but berpada pada. Be generous in demand. Ask for something that make sense. Okay, you wanted this thing so much, he could effort the whole price but it is not wrong to pay some part of it.
Girls, stop making relationship (in finance state) hard for guys. Contribute each other because your food tu nanti kau jugak yang makan. From time to time when you feel like you have some extra money, it is not wrong to pay a bit more this time. He used to pay like 70% from the meals price, haw about you pay 60%. It is not about competing but learn to be generous.
That was among the things i have to share. Thank you for actually reach this end of point.
Being with H is not something i planned at thee first place. I always said, i dont prefer classmates but here I am with H. Im not saying its a bad things because we could literally share our assignments and study together and such, i just had bad experience once. Almost twice but nothing really official so i just consider that as almost. Eventho it was not planned, it was magically and still is.
No we don't live like fairy tale and everything seems rainbow and sunshine. No. It have had a few arguments and each were worst than before yet, we managed it. I guess that is just how relationship should work. I had been in relationship before but none of it was as serious as with H. None of it last this long too. Im not sure it is me or that other party. I did try to save it but it didn't work.
Being with H, opens my perception about older (a bit lah) guys and guys as a whole. Let's just ignore the phase men are trash for awhile. First, not ALL men are trash because women could be the trash too. Eventho im a feminist but i dont play by the rules of discriminating men. The simplest idea is, both men and women are equal in different ways. Tipulah kalau laki tak pernah nak clingy, manja manja, sensitive and such. You cant just side on women je about these things because above all the "being period and pms" shits, guys too have hormone.
If you know H as a person, you know how serious he is with his other commitments in any society which sometimes got my nerves. I mean, I am very supportive but i do need my man time to time. I do blame myself for holding him back sometimes but thats just my job. If he can't figure out how to balance his work now, he will never will in the future. If you let him too loose, he will never realize how far he had gone. He needed the break himself too. I am fine with any other commitments but he has to set boundaries. That boundaries would determine did he overwork.
I pity him whenever he was told to do extra works. Like i said, ill try my best to be supportive but at the same time i told him, you have ALL THE RIGHTS to say NO!
H in general is very kind and hard working. He would try to understand everyone and adapt with everyone's ways of communication. He is very supportive too. He don't complaint when i talk about make ups, skin cares, all those girl stuffs. He learn about it too. LOL Of course in the other hand, i would listen to his complaining and boy stuffs too. (Rahsia syaahomies takde dalam our conversation most of the times)
Give and take. We support each others interest lah in general.
We do consult each other with some stuff and always, i mean it, ALWAYS update each others well being and location. He would said, oh he needed to do this and that, so at least i dont have to wait for him. Ill update to him too most of the time. We get use to each other's pattern eventually.
Lastly i would say about spending. I know most couples who are still a student would consider this part of something. Sometimes when H asked me out, i set a limit because i don't want to spend too much. Example, i dont mind makan dekat mana tapi bajet mesti sekian, kalau nak lebih, you pay the baki. Does it sound rude? Nope. It is the truth. You can't expect your partner to pay for everything okay. It is not nice. Eventho he pays for everything, please please consider to contribute in other things. Pay half of the mean of at least give him something. Girls, insist to contribute. Laki kau bukan cop duit. Eventho he offers to pay for everything please remember, kau awek dia bukan isteri dia lagi. Dia tak belanja pun mak bapak dia lebih lebih macam kau jadi baik kau consider. Ok fine he push your offer but at least offer. Then, haa THEN you belanja lah dia something in return. Eventho bende tu murah. Example, he paid for the whole meal, you treat him some snacks ke bubbletea ke. Don't go out on a date without bringing any money. Please lah ladies.
It does not only show your good personalities but it also shows how considerate you are. Learn to be considerate in early state so that you will get used to it. Remember, eventho Allah mulia kan perempuan ni sampai syurga anak anak dibawah telapak kaki ibu and such, syurga seorang isteri tetap dengan suami. Kalau dari awal dah berkira macam macam, imagine later macam mana.
Im not saying you cant demand, you could but berpada pada. Be generous in demand. Ask for something that make sense. Okay, you wanted this thing so much, he could effort the whole price but it is not wrong to pay some part of it.
Girls, stop making relationship (in finance state) hard for guys. Contribute each other because your food tu nanti kau jugak yang makan. From time to time when you feel like you have some extra money, it is not wrong to pay a bit more this time. He used to pay like 70% from the meals price, haw about you pay 60%. It is not about competing but learn to be generous.
That was among the things i have to share. Thank you for actually reach this end of point.
