"Since i am with him, my friends changed."
I know im not the only one that actually experience it.
You see, things are not like in the tv where your bffs would stick around. Sometimes i wonder, does being with someone else strip away the title of bff. I guess so. What i wonder, isn't it exhausting to earn the title as a bff but you prefer to throw it away and find someone or a new group to replace what you got.
This does not apply to everyone that i know or every friendship i built. I understand about most of my close friends that actually live far so we meet once in awhile, some of them are very busy because even i know studying is hard and etc. I don't mind my friends have new friends and most of the time, i learn to accept that no matter how close we are, it will turn out to be 'were' because of distance. You can say you missed me and ill say the same and we both know missing can't change the distance but we tried to look pass it.
What i do not understand why some people prefer to take relationship as a toxic or bitterly.
I know there are some of your friends who are the one starting to be distance since the relationship, the one person who always 'berkepit' non stop. Does it sound familiar? Wait, you think its me? Noooo. People distance themselves from me after i started dating. I don't have anywhere else to go besides being with him. After sometime, i accept it and ignore those who whispers.
People left, the one that never care about you anymore. They just disappear.
People that stick around, not all of them just stand there to comfort you, some just stand there to judge you.
People that stare, this is the most dangerous person because you thought they care when actually they don't give a damn. At first they seems friendly, as they gain your trust, they take advantages from you.
People you can rely on, is the one that does not only stand and stare, they ask and give help if you asked for. If they judge you, they would want the truth from you. No one is perfect. I am not saying i never been the one that only stand or stare but to those i really care, i would ask.
If you are a bff to a person or a group of friends, dont just leave because you thought she/he is in good hand. They still need you. Your title is higher because you are the one they wanted to be as the godparents of their kids. The one they cried on even they have someone because in certain things, you understand more.
If you want to be a bff, earn the title.
You would be surprised how much they listen to a bff then their partner.
I am not saying you need to care about every single thing going on in their life, it would no hurt if you actually ask them about their well being or ask them for a coffee date to catch up.
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