Finally something new :')
Ive been thinking about posting this for awhile. Honestly, this is just based on my experience while mingle with few friends back in the days.
Dating is also known as couple in my society. Let me like clarify this simple thing first, in a relationship, there will be a person be dominant while the other person is the minority. The dominant one will always decide in the relationship but that does not mean he or she do not need the other person, deep down someone who seems hard, he or she will always be fragile with the other one. The one being the dominant could be a he and could be a she. It depends on the relationship.
So, let us walk through the content.
1. The one that waits for the perfect guy without trying
So you see, you will always have this friend who always said, I am waiting for THE ONE. At the same time, she never been in a relationship. She may have a lot of guy friends or a few people who loves to follow her around.
This kind of girl is living in a fantasy world. I guess things just never been bad to her. She must be always lucky.
Honestly, without knowing a person (a boy) personally and so close, i will not know what does 'perfect' means. There is no perfect guy out there because after awhile, there will be things that you dont like but it depends on you, are you going to accept it or not. It goes back to you, are you going to be tolerance?
She just never want to be hurt if that guy end up breaking he heart. You just never know until you experience it yourself. The lesson learnt here is, no one is actually going to fix into your lists.
p/s: Even Megan and Harry were set in blind date and actually 'dated' for quite sometime until they tight the knot.
2. Play safe or Very accepting
The girl that play safe is usually someone very average like me. She never had anyone that like her or confess so she just accept it.
Some girls, they are close enough as a friend and while being a friend you see a potential relationship so you just go with the flow.
You think you like this guy too and due to age, you think it is the right time to actually start a relationship.
You could be the one wanting the relationship and the guy just like, okay, lets just give it a try. Or that guy want a relationship from you and you think, ok lets try it.
3. The bold ones
She wants to be the dominant one. This kinda girl must find someone who don't mind being challenge by a girl. I mean, he is okay with you deciding most things.
If you go loco, he must be there in silence and comfort you instead of shouting at you back.
Ive seen this relationship became toxic due to both party want to be dominant. It could be abusive. This girl was the alpha wolf, she always decide things but as they had a fight and the girl cried. The boy never comfort her and just let her be. In the end, the girl always apologies and suffer. Yeah, she ended the toxic relationship.
Find a guy that could tolerant you and you must do the same thing. Its hard to find someone who want to understand because the bold ones are hard to handle. Dont pick a bad bitch if you cant handle one tho.
4. Family decide
It still exist okayyy. Some girls just prefer their parents fix them with a potential guy. Honestly, it depends.
I love this story i heard from a friend. She said, her mother was in her 20s and 2 men came to propose her. Her father did solat istikharah and such then he decided the best.Her mother end up marrying one guy (her dad) who was in 30s. Despite the age difference they had a wonderful family.
We talked about older partner (guys). I friend said she prefer older ones because they are more mature and stable etc. I mean, it make sense and talking with her was very open up about this kind of thing.
Its not wrong if you guys feel comfortable with each other. I mean, i dont prefer like any tradition that the first time you see the bride is after you married her, there must a duration to actually know each other. If you ever have someone else, it is better to come clean about it. After all, you deserve to be happy. Fight for it!
5. Try and error
Well, you cant say all relationship is perfect. Some girl try and error to find the right one, some just like to play around. It depends too.
You want to be in a relationship that makes you feel safe, accepting and 2 ways of communication.
You dont want to just follow everything he said and decided even about your life.. It is okay to walk away from a toxic one or the constant one.
Constant i mean, he never shows any interest of going forward, marrying you. It is a waste of time. Imagine you have been with the guy since school until you work but the guy never want to meet your family, just walk away. You deserve so much better.
I read somewhere which stated, " You deserve better. It is not a better person around you but a better version of you!" The basic thing about try and error is learning. You must learn to adapt and he also have to do the same. The shit excuses of we are not right for each other kinda thing could also be true.
I guess being in early 20s just makes me open to more perspectives in life and i want to encourage people out there to do the same. It is not just about taking chances, but being more open and accepting in the community. Start small. Dont be afraid to talk to guys just because they are males. You would be surprise how they could actually help you and show you things from different angle.
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