Family first?

In this matter, everyone has their own opinion and of course i do have mine.

Before i go further, you should know i grow up in Asian type of parenting and obey most of my dad's plans for us. I mean, i understand how 'eating more salt' applies but, we still have our differences. It is never easy to go against them. It is also hard to make them understand how things different nowadays and back then. Also, there are a lot of advises we could use and go with it still, certain things need to be consider too.

Personally, i obeyed my dad's plans for my education wise. I had my kindergarten in the middle of city which is far from home and only a specific bus from my grandma's house to that place. Then, primary school in the middle of city too, 15km from house. Here is the problem, it is sooo damn far to hang out with friends and had no friends from the neighborhood. It was lonely, that's why i appreciate my time at school and tuition. The first year of secondary school i moved to 3 schools, 1 week in MGS, almost 2 months in SMK Bainun then the rest of it in SEMESTI. I insisted to stayed in bainun because friends were good, nice foods and i just loved it there. No, sbp is more important. Got my foundation in matriculation instead of any ipta. Fine, Unimas is damn far. Now, proceeding pharmacy also for the best interest of my dad. It took me about a year to accept my faith and ace in it. It is so fucking hard. Now, i have my aims to work as WHAT I WANT!

I will stand on the ground for what I FUCKING WANT TO WORK. You see, typical path is working in hospital while actually, we could work in pharmacies you see in shopping mall or any street shops, we could work in factories, be a researcher and etc! What my family see and accept as 'reality' is of course, HOSPITAL even i told them my clinical is not so strong....

AM i the one screaming? Am i the only one who actually want something else? Am i the only one who believes in other opportunities? Am i the only one you see it is worth it to try something else?

Well right now, one of my brother is having that conflict. He had some experience working in a local factory about procurement department. Then he went to training in SL1ME, skim latihan 1 malaysia for tnb. Tnb absorbed him working as contract worker. The contract for 6 months if im not mistaken. The disadvantage of contract worker, you can't have rise in salary, no allowance, no OT even if you work in weekends or more than office hour and you could be terminated any time. The worst part is, you never know if the next contract will be yours or WHEN YOU WILL HAVE PERMANENT POSITION. Even if you work as contract for 3 years or more straight then get permanent position, your salary start like any other new staff. The only advantage of tnb, its half government.

You see, my dad grew up with the government. He got his scholars from them up till he got his PhD. Both my parents were gov workers. Of course non-gov or private sectors scared the hell out of them esp my dad. I get it, gov have secure positions and certain advantages esp when it comes to loan. It is easier to get loan from banks. Retirement, most things are secured. I get it.

The thing is, my brother lives in KL with 2.5k salary which 500 rent exclude his transport, foods, savings. How long does he have to suffer? He is hard working bastard! The shittest thing that happened on hari raya ( our eid festival), he was supposed to get bonus which is 500 (around that) and as he got the news, he told us he will treat us (our family) for dinner (break fast). He didn't get his bonus because his shitty manager decided to grade him 60 something which is worst than worst worker. That person never told him what was wrong with his work or anything and decided to give him 50 for duit raya konon peace offering. Man, wth?????????

Now, he got a better offer from other company and i hope a company that actually could see his potential. I hope he could grow better. He was offered 3.2k salary and if permanent, 3.6k. More allowances along the way. Probably will be quite different from his field but who cares, as long as he is up for it, JUST DO IT!

BUt my dad..... see it as a curse.... or idk what he sees....

I am certain he is not on board.

I mean, idk.... Sometimes i understands how parents dont what us to do mistakes that could ruin our lives. They had sacrifices a lot for us to get till this point. What they dont see, how we have different opportunities right now. Shit are not the same. It is harder to be a gov servants. Harder to get into certain gov companies. Without cable, nothing as easy. Not all bosses appreciates. Even my dad learnt it the hard way. Why making it more harder than it should?

We make mistakes, we learn and grow form it. Maybe not everytime but most of the time. We have dreams, we have goals. We want something for ourselves and sometimes those things are different from what our parents planned for us.

My brother wanted to get married but everyone is against it as he does not have permanent position.

This is my opinion and i believes, as much as our parents have rights toward our choices, we deserve to choose. Maybe... they forgot that last time they also made some bold choices that differs from their parent's idea. Success does not happen overnight....