A story for a lesson not judgement

She is a mother of 2 children. She has a husband but refused to take care of the family properly. Here is her story as a lesson.

She is just like any other girl, who made choices and some of them were right and some were wrong. She finished her high school and got her degree. She had her first job but by that time she taught to herself, she could do better. So, she decided to quit and find something better. Her real challenging journey that she never expected to face began.

She moved out from her hometown to find a better life in the city. Got herself a few jobs and met a few guys. I guess everything is part of living. One by one of her housemate got married then it occurred to her that she wanted a family.

She met this guy. This guy did not gave up upon her even said he was willing to move back to her hometown and live there with her. This guy was willing to let go of his good job here in the city for her. He even willing to cope with every terms given by her father to marry her.

Meeting this guy must be a miracle or at least she thought.

They got married. Immediately they got a child, its a girl! Life seems okay at first but as any other marriage, you came across argument and shits. Well, she could still cope with it.

That guy was jobless... He would be out at dawn and came back at night. Almost everyday. They live in her mother's home. Thank God, she has a job till now but she knew that her job is not enough to pay for her family.

The next year, she got pregnant and this time its a boy. Two child with her income and her own house coming, it is not enough. She tried to find extra income by a small business.

Her husband, well things got worst. He is still jobless and didn't bother to raise his family. He go around doing God-knows-what and only get money for HIMSELF. To buy his cigarettes, some eggs for home (sometimes) and whatever he needs... No, he didn't bother to pay the bills, at least give his mother in law some money for taking care of his babies.

Now, she demand a divorce because it has been years he don't give money for her family and he started to raise his voice and hands on them. Guess what... he make some conditions ( HOW DARE THIS MADA...) He said,
- you must pay me back (the hantaran and such) because he deserve to marry other woman
- he want the custody of the children (even he never care to actually give money for their toys and pampers and etc)

That is not it, he even said, "Alah tak sara keluarga je. 3 Tahun je. " Things like that. How dare him........

Now, things are still in process. Yes, it is based on a real event. It is something that actually happen.

Here i wanted to say, even when you are married, he might not be the one. Trust me.... that is a sad truth.

Imagine you had given him everything including yourself as you marry a guy but some guys still take it for granted.

So, it is okay to not marry anyone as long as you don't find the right guy. As an educated and as a women itself, you have ALL the rights to get a nice guy. A guy that will take care of you and YOUR family. At least, the family.

Marrying is not about making one's life miserable.

You make mistakes. You came across bad people. Things work out differently but that does not mean its too late to change it. You can change it. You can still make better things out of it. Its gonna be rough, true. Its aren't going to be as usual, i know. If thats for the best, i dont see you have anything to loss.

Remember all women out there, you deserve to be happy. You deserve a better guy. You deserve to be treat like a queen. Everyone knows how much you had sacrificed, now reward yourself by throwing away the toxic and poisons in your life. :)